Men, Women and Communication

I love steak. Especially when it's all nice and seasoned and bloody in the middle. I also loathe the current notion of Valentine's Day, the way it is marketed today, with this twisted idea that it's all about pleasing the Woman. So, why then, do I have a problem with Steak & Blowjob Day, when obviously it was made to give the pendulum of the feminized Valentine's Day celebration a shove in the opposite direction? Because two wrongs don't make a right and because whilst Valentine's Day in itself holds no indication of neither gender, sexual preferences or dietary concerns, Steak & Blowjob Day is just one big carnivorous display of misogyny, which also manages to exclude more than just one gender.

It is also really, really cowardly and infantile. It is, quite blatantly made up by men, unhappy with the demands that their female partners have set on them for Valentine's Day, and feel the need to "get back at them" by creating a day that for them represents what they would have wanted for Valentine's Day, had they been in charge. Herein lies the problem. If this is what you would have wanted for Valentine's Day, then grow the vagina to actually communicate this to your partner, instead of grumbling discontentedly to your mates about it.

You might find that your significant other think it's amazing that you too want to celebrate Valentine's Day, and maybe even that nothing has been done for you earlier because you have not communicated your desires. Partners are rarely mind readers.

You might find that your significant other has this idea that it's all about you doing the work, in which case, and I hate to break it to you, your significant other sucks (and there are all manner of ways that you can deal with that, but I think there are books written about this which you can check out if you fall into this category).

Now, some of you might say: but what about and Cupcakes & Cunnilingus Day? Well, I have a problem with that too. Again, it's another cowardly and infantile way of trying to "get back at " the men who created Steak and Blowjob Day. And personally, I think it's just as bad for all the same reasons.

My point, I suppose, is that all relationships depend on a healthy amount of dialog and communication. And if everyone kept the following in mind every time the second month of the year approaches, then we would probably never have heard of either Steak & Blowjob Day or Cupcake & Cunnilingus Day:

Remember, if you expect your significant other to dish up lots of aesthetic, gastronomical and sexual preasure for you on Valentine's Day, it is only fair that you provide the very same thing for your significant other.